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Tiffany
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| 05/19/2009 1:39 AM |
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We recently ran into a friend at a party that we hadn't seen in about 6 years. We asked the typical "what's been going on?" question. He told us about an out of state trip that he & his wife went on with 2 other couples. He said they guys went to a strip bar. That's ALL he told us about the trip. We don't know why they went or what else the did or saw. He also told us about a guy's weekend trip that was "a blast" because they watched porn vidoes.
I seems I hear a lot about how many or maybe even most men are "secretive" about their porn addiction. Are the others bragging??? What is there to brag about. Is this confirmation to them that they are "REAL MEN" because they like porn? |
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Beauchamp
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| 06/12/2009 1:37 PM |
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Hi, Tiffany. Speaking as a man, I can tell you that insecure men will sometimes brag about watching porn the same way schoolboys will brag about having "scored" with a girl. It implies that the man doing the bragging is unafraid of the female sex.
Within many men (myself included), there is, at some level, a primitive, irrational fear of women. Specifically, a fear of the sexual power they have over men. Every man knows how a smile from a pretty woman can undo his strong manly composure in the blink of an eye--even if he manages to keep it relatively hidden from view--and, over time, potentially lead him to do all sorts of unwise things.
For the most part, of course, men retain their composure and remain civil members of society and faithful husbands or boyfriends. But it never comes naturally. It is always a choice, no matter how instantaneously a man may make it. That's part of the reason God made adultery a sin. Because he knew the sinful impulse was something that men, though they can bring it under control, will never be completely free of.
Women can sometimes find this notion of their power over men hard to grasp since men have a such an obvious PHYSICAL power over women by virtue of their generally larger physiques and capacity for aggression. But a woman's beauty is the one thing a man's muscles and stoicism provide no advantage over. Indeed, a woman's face is capable of launching a thousand ships...
All of which means that when a man brags about his "conquests," whether real or passively viewed, he is just engaging in another form of chest-beating. No thousand ships will be launched today! Particularly insecure men will brag about merely watching pictures of women, as if it were some sort of indication of their power over the women in the pictures. It is sad and unfortunate, and bespeaks a very undeveloped view of what constitutes a "real man." |
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