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Lori
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| 08/19/2010 11:00 PM |
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| Ok, here's a question to throw out there....
Are men visual because they are men, or could it be possible that part (if not most) of the reason is simply because a woman's body is just way more physically sexier? I mean, hear me out for a second... even as a woman (who is completly straight and hates porn) I can see that there is something very alluring to looking at a naked woman's body and I myself sometimes can be drawn to looking at a woman's cleavage or a sexy picture of a woman. And to be honest, if I'm not careful, I can easily get turned on by it (and not in a way that makes me WANT that woman at all...but just in a way that gets my general sexual desires kicking in). And I know I'm not the only one who thinks this way because 3 of my female coworkers (who are all straight and married) and I were talking one day about how we'd all much rather look at a picture of a naked woman's body vs a naked man's body (not that I'd want to do either...) and that they too have a hard time not looking when a woman's cleavage is out for the world to see.
So I don't know...are we women really being honest with ourselves? I can't imagine I and my coworkers are the only "visual" woman out there!
What do you gals think?
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Ruby
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| 08/30/2010 2:00 AM |
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Well, here's the thing: you have to ask yourself what is REALLY behind the reason why you're drawn to looking at these women.I'm not you, so I can't speak for you, you need to dig deep to answer that question for yourself. But here is one thought for you to chew on: women are competitive. Very competitive. We learn from a very early age that beauty gets people's attention. We observe other women (and people's reactions to them, including men's) from the time we gain that awareness on because other beautiful and attractive women can teach us things we weren't aware of. A different way to dress, a different make-up, a different perfume - and even more subjective things as personality traits - are all things we start noticing and then linking to how other people respond to them. Then we try a few of these things and notice that we get better responses. The first time this happens - BAM! It becomes a learned behavior. So, this reason alone is enough to make us more intentionally aware of other attractive women.
After making the attraction vs. sex connection, we also become aware of the fact that when we look a certain way, or dress a certain way (and so on and so forth), this creates a male response. More importantly, it creates a response in that particular male we want to have that response. There's something really sexy about that response. At this point, we create another connection in the brain: attractiveness/male response. This connection becomes so ingrained in our brains that over time we don't even consciously think about it anymore. But deep down, what created this connection was "an attractive female creates a male response, if I look attractive, the attention will be on me". And if that response does go towards you, it turns you on (assuming it's from the male you want to have the response).
So, after being bombarded by this, over and over again, by watching other men and women and their attraction dance, when you look at a picture of another attractive female or see a woman showing that type of cleavage, your brain will make that connection (attractiveness/male response) in a split second. You won't consciously think "ok, that woman looks attractive, she certainly creates a male response", then picture that male response in your mind which, then, turns you on. This happens very fast. So you are left with YOUR physical response, but I don't think it's for the woman, but caused by that connection. Unless, of course, you are bisexual, in which case you would indeed feel that attraction for the woman But I think the real force at play here could be that there's something really sexy about being deeply desired by a man and that's the connection your brain is making on a very deep level.
Anyway... Just my 2 cents on what COULD be going on there. One way to put it to test is to pay attention to your own body language when exposed to these images. If even in small ways you mimic what you find alluring in that image, that's probably the case. It's the female in you learning attraction strategies on a subtle level and reacting to what you have learned to expect from that. |
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