pinky
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| 01/28/2009 3:04 AM |
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I was thinking about reading the book For Men Only before giving it to my husband for Valentines Day. I really don't know much about this book but thought it sounded like something that could help him understand me.
My mom once read a book meant for men and basically said it made her more resentful of my dad because he didn't fulfill the suggestions the book made for the husband. I just don't want to ruin anything by reading it.
Also, is this an appropriate gift for Valentines Day???
Thanks.
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Princess
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| 01/29/2009 7:06 PM |
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I have to agree with your mom. DH and I started reading the books on the same day. As a woman (more focused on relationships), I finished first. By a hige margin (I think he's still reading.)
As Shaunti or Jeff mentions in FMO, men process differently. I wanted to talk about everything I came across. DH hasn't asked to talk about anything he has read. I thought I'd read FMO and see what I found out - for two main reasons. One - I wanted to see what he was learning, since we weren't discussing it. Two - I had read somewhere (maybe FWO - have been reading lots of relationship books recently) that men were surprised about certain things, thinking they were each the "only one" who did/thought/felt that.
Well, it was a very interesting book and a fast read for me. I found it fascinating that so many things that I have been apologizing for over the years are common among women - I really did think I was the "only one" who thought it "didn't count" when a woman says, "you never say you love me", and he replies, "I love you." (That's just one example.)
That said - I quickly found myself disenchanted with DH. See, I never moved his bookmark, so I knew what he had read. I was getting upset that he wasn't applying it as quickly as I wanted him to. That's why I wouldn't recommend reading it - unless you give him time to read it first and start acting on it (like maybe 6 months.)
In my opinion, this is not an appropriate gift for V day, unless you also "gift" yourself FWO and advise him that you chose those gifts out of love for him and the hope that you could strengthen the relationship by understanding each other better. Getting him FMO may indicate to him that you are dissatisfied with the relationship and think it's his fault. Just my opinion, but how would you feel if he gave you a book about dieting?'
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Rwarnberg
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| 02/11/2009 3:22 PM |
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| I received copies of both books as a prize from a local radio station. Of course, I gave my husband his and I took mine to read. I did have to sneak a peek at the FMO book because I wanted to see if one specific topic was included which it was. I have not read the rest of the book and really only skimmed the other topics..........but my dearest hope is that he does read the book and put it into practice. The chapter was very candid on the subject and said what I've tried to tell him many times. |
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He heals the brokenhearted, binding up their wounds.....Psalms 147:3 |
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hwhit
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| 03/10/2009 11:19 PM |
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I vote a hearty yes!
My boyfriend and I are discussing marriage so we decided to get the couples box and read. One of the suggestions was to read the book about your own sex first and annotate it. I read For Men Only and underlined what was really important to me, added my thoughts in the margin and circled my responses to the surveys. He did the same with For Women Only. Now that I am almost through For Women Only, I understand what is important to men in general and specifically to the man that I love. Its been really helpful for both of us because it has helped us verbalize our needs and desires in a way that we couldn't have before. |
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flashbeaver
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| 03/17/2009 6:31 PM |
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What a creative idea. To read each other's books and jot down what is important to you! Exelent idea! That deserves a WOW!
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Tiffany
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| 04/29/2009 4:47 PM |
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| After reading both books, I decided that from now on when I need to buy a wedding present, the couple is going to receive FWO & FMO (you can get it in a "couples box set". It saves me having to decide what to get them & I feel it's an excellent gift. I wish someone would have given it us when we got married. I got For Young Women Only & gave it to my 17 year old daughter. I told her it contained the best information I could possibly give to her. |
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Ashley4
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| 12/27/2009 9:46 PM |
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I vote yes - I was surprised that it was so honest and open especially about appearances. Most times, these topics will not come up on their own, and if you can get a dialogue going, it'll help with communicating. Go hwhit! I think I'll do that too  |
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dannimariec
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| 12/28/2009 1:42 PM |
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That is a really neat idea. My fiance and I are in marriage counseling, and that is where we got the books. We have already started reading ours, but maybe afterward, we can exchange and do that idea for a review, and more learning! Neat neat idea!
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ben
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| 01/07/2010 6:33 PM |
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I heard about this book a year ago but was reminded about it a few weeks ago and have since bought both FWO and FMO and have read FMO and I am half way through FWO
and have found them an interesting read
As i guy and a singleton, I have learned a lot reading both books and have a new outlook to what is expected of me, and what I can expect of my future Wife/Girlfriend
One thing I have gathered from both books is the need for a Godly life, with a couple key points (in my opinion) patience and Love.
To me they go hand in hand, so unless you’re married to a cloned version of yourself, you cannot expect your partner to do what you do to the letter.
That’s my thought anyway |
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JoeMS
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| 01/11/2010 3:16 PM |
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I agree with Princess; however I was the one who was more interested in discussing the books.
I've bought the pair and given them as gifts. |
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